Immaturity

This post is a personal rant. Those of you who know me, know that every year I go to a hat party. It is something I look forward to every year. This year I won't be going. Why? Well, here's the thing. I have no idea. One of the hosts told my dearest friend D. that I was not welcome. We have racked our brains and can't figure out why. Now the hosts have not bothered to tell me that I am not invited. So your next question is why wouldn't I know if I didn't receive an invitation? Here's why. The host has, for years, said that once you've been invited you are always invited. I have received invitations off an on over the years. And those of you that know me know that I have moved frequently over the past several years. I thought nothing of not getting an invitation because who can keep up with my address? It has been a party that, if you get an invitation in the mail, you are asked to spread the word to those who did not. Well that is still true, unless you are me.
I understand that I can be brash and offensive. I know my flaws. I am aware that sometimes I say things that I don't mean as they sound. The thing is, the people I have spoken to that know both myself and the two hosts, don't believe that this is the situation. But we can't know, because, officially I am not even supposed to know that I am not invited. The hosts are just assuming that I will forget about the party till it is too late. Never mind that I speak to a large number of people on a regular basis that attend the party as I have, every year.
My issue with this is not that I am not invited, it's that no one has the balls to say it to me. If you tell me you don't want me in your house or at your party then I won't come. I am a big girl. I haven't seen this kind of thing since, I don't know, High school. We're inviting the cool kids, don't tell so and so there is a party this weekend, she is too nerdy, we can tell her after the party has already happened. I have had a lot of thoughts run through my mind as to how to deal with this. I first thought about emailing them and asking them why. I thought about driving out to their house and confronting them in person. I have thought about sending out a notice to everyone that is normally invited telling them what kind of crap this is. And I have thought about playing stupid and just showing up to the party as if I had no idea that this year, unlike every other year, I am not invited. ( I will admit to the fact that I am still seriously considering the last one as immature as it is) But I keep coming to the same thought every time I ponder all this. If I act at all, I will most likely lower myself down to their level. This is an idea I absolutely abhor. And secondly, I don't believe I have done or said anything to warrant this whole situation. There are a lot of factions in this group, and not everyone loves me. I normally leave those people alone. It's just not worth the energy to fake it, or fight over it. But D. and a few others believe that it may be one of these haters that has poured poison into our host's ear.
The thing is, I have invited several friends and one of my professors as I have done every year. My professor is an old friend of one of the hosts. I now have to look like an idiot and tell them all, " I know I invited you to this party and got you all psyched up about it, but yeah, I've not been invited this year." It's a completely riddiculous situation. And it's as immature as it comes. If you have a problem with me, then come to me. If I have a problem with you, I will come to you. That is how grown-ups work things out. Either we will fix things, agree to disagree, or agree to part ways. But don't tell my friend I can't come to a party that I have always come to, and then not tell me. It's just childish. So I would like input on what you all think I should do. But I will go ahead and warn you I am leaning towards doing nothing at all and just saying screw it and them!