Kharma...

I have to say that I am a full believer in Kharma. Bad Kharma can be a SOB. I have in my life experienced the backlash of said kharma many times. Let me just tell you; it wasn't pretty. Actions have consequences.... you reap what you sow... what goes around comes around. What those sayings fail to mention is that, when it comes back around it has been multiplied and will hit you with a resounding wallop. I believe that you can bring this kind of repercussion on yourself even if the action was not intentional. Energy keeps flowing and if you create bad energy intentionally or otherwise you still made it.

In my late teen years, I knew a very sweet guy we'll refer to as Jack. Jack was head over heels for me. I absolutely adored him, but I knew from the time we met that I would never be to him what he wanted me to be. We went out, we hung out, and many nights I stayed at his house. Things were never sexual. But I kept him around as my security blanket. I cared for him and wanted the affection even if I couldn't return it. I moved to Florida after a good 6 months of this... I asked him to come, basically because I knew he wouldn't. We never really spoke after that.

Several years later I got all that back and more. I was the one head over heels for a guy. This guys spent countless days and nights with me. Again never anything sexual. This was one of two men I have ever truly fallen in love with. When he started dating someone right before my very eyes I was absolutely devastated. I sobbed for days. I got back what I gave and then some. It sucked but I will never forget it. I am ever more cognizant of my actions. I do NOT want to go through that kind of thing again. Not because of Kharma anyway.

Over the years, as we all have, there have been a handful of people that have shat upon me. And every time it happens, after the pain and or anger subsides, I think to myself Do they have any idea what they have just done to themselves? And then the next thought would have to be I sure hope I am there when it comes back on them!
Not a good christian attitude to be sure, but human nonetheless.

Kharma has been on my mind for two reasons. One, I am watching a dear friend of mine being strung along like a puppy on a leash by a girl who has no intention of doing anything but use him. Kills me to watch , but he has already vested so much of his heart into her that there is no telling him. Eventually her true colors will show. Sadly, her case differs from mine slightly. I don't believe she even cares for him at all other than the attention he gives her.
And the return on that invested kharma is really going to suck for her!
Two, I took care of seven women today at lunch. ( I am a server while I am going to school) They only order 3 entrees between the seven of them. On top of that they told me they didn't want an appetizer. They were in a hurry and asked to pay their checks as soon as the food was ordered. I obliged them. When the food arrived they told the servers who took the food that they never got their appetizer. Which they then of course got for free. This being my second day on the job, I apologized anyway and explained that I was new. I forgot to add gratuity to the table, due to all the split checks (we add gratuity to all parties of 6 or more) And they left me less than ten percent tip. Eighteen to twenty percent is for good service. Fifteen Percent for less than good service. Ten Percent if their was truly a problem and you spoke to the manager. There was a hiccup or two but I was attentive and they never ran out of drinks. They got their checks promptly and etc. These women were just cheap. Seven people split three meals... Come on!
For those who don't know: IF YOU CAN"T AFFORD TO TIP WELL, DON"T GO OUT TO EAT!
You try making 2.13 an hour! Yes that's right, 2.13 an hour. We don't get paychecks after taxes. The government expects you to make at least 12 percent tips. 10 percent doesn't cut it!
And while I am at it let me say this... If you dock a server's tips because they make a mistake, or worse yet because the kitchen cooked things improperly is WRONG! Does your boss dock Your pay because you make a mistake? Cause that is what you're doing! Or does your boss dock your pay because someone in the same office with you made a mistake? See my point? If the server is rude or inattentive I can certainly understand. If you are forced to get a manager to get things taken care of then certainly. I should stop, my blood pressure is going up the more I think of this!

So to all seven of you that I took care of today. Kharma is coming for you! And to the nice gentleman that paid for the three gentlemen I took care of and left me the nice tip, Thank you!